Sprouting Nonsense

Priority vs Option

findcotton — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 18:43:22 +0000

Exactly one week ago, I had a quarrel with my partner.

I was feeling down and out over the loss of a friendship but instead of comforting me, my partner went clubbing with her friends.

I went for coffee with my mates.

My partner’s excuse was, “I know you were feeling down so Izad can cheer you up”.

I was really disappointed. She’s my partner yet she would rather have someone else to cheer me up.

I was dumbfounded.

PRIORITY vs OPTION.

I felt I wasn’t her priority. More like an option.

It’s like…

findcotton — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 16:40:00 +0000

Life and its paradoxes.

I have recently ended a friendship. It was like losing a family member, a godbrother to be exact.

He was there for me through all the ups and downs but I could not tolerate the thought that I might accelerate the downfall of his marriage.

I had to make my stand, in hope that one day he will be able to forgive me for all that was said and done.

Moving on was never easy, but knowing how it can help you in your life, your marriage makes it easier for me to keep on marching.

“A simple friend thinks the friendship over when you have an argument. A real friend knows that it’s not a friendship until after you’ve had a fight.”

Cobwebs..?????

findcotton — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 14:36:01 +0000

-ahhhh choo!-

I can see cobwebs all around this blog.

Apologies to my bitchy supporters. The Queen is back.

It’s been awhile since I’ve last blogged about my thoughts etc.

I’ve been pretty busy – busy rotting away on facebook! Yes many of you have seen my updates, I’m a full time virtual chef cum cafe owner and I try to bring part of that trait into the real world.

I’ve been flagged for wasting food – I don’t deny this at all but I just can’t help it, I like variety. Same goes for everything in life. Clothes, shoes, bags and of course my lovely channels of gossiping!

Be it in the real world or cyber world, there are a few avenues to do the bitching. It varies from online chats, blogs, status updates, SMS, face-to-face, emails and it goes on and on.

A lil goss to share. One fine hot summer night, TI popped me a question about Criss Angel (CA) and that Ti saw CA on msn but with a different username. I was like HUH? Aaaahhh…after much 007 investigations, the truth came to light. The gayness started to surface! We started to bitch about it – okay for those who have got no clue what this is all about; drop me a private note and I’ll elaborate further. Anyway I also had a rundown with CA. Told him off about his rude behaviour when we are all out as a group. CA’s always busy on his cell BBMing away – it’s so fucking irritating! And he had the audacity to do that when I brought him out for lunch. –shake head-

I’ve been on a long paid sabbatical – hmm not too sure if I can use such a word but well I went for a short trip before I started ‘real’ work. I went to Phuket. It was a ‘memorable’ experience. I went with beautiful people, my godbrother, my nephew and his partner. I didn’t enjoy the sightseeing etc but I did enjoy the company. The most memorable part of the trip was our breakfast sessions where we started to order tons of food and while waiting for the dishes to be served, we would bitch about the service.

During the trip, I’ve been missed – for all my fishes out there, I know you miss me! I’ve been pretty busy in cyber world, other than cooking and looking after my virtual cafe, I’ve been busy hooking up with new folks on MSN. I didn’t know my value till recently. Maybe I should switch sides – if ya get what I mean?

I know all of you want the best for me, so please give me all your support!

Xoxo

Cotton

Marilyn Monroe..

findcotton — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 11:18:09 +0000

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when their right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust noone but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

“A wise girl kisses but doesn’t love, listens but doesn’t believe, and leaves before she is left.”

“If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.”

“I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.”

“When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I’m already better than them.”

“It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.”

“She was a girl who knew how to be happy even when she was sad. And that’s important—you know “

Quotes taken from: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/82952.Marilyn_Monroe

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findcotton — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 12:39:28 +0000

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When you do the wrong thing at the right time, you are right, when you do the right thing at the wrong time, you are wrong.

findcotton — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 05:34:08 +0000

Love the title of my post! got it from Ah Ngiam.

Googled it and found a similar entry which got me thinking…

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What kind of bad habits do you struggle with? Most people think that when they come to Christ that their bad habits will magically disappear. And some church people act like if you have any bad habits in your life that you must not truly be saved, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Christians or not, we are all people, and people make mistakes.

People have bad habits.

If you are anything like me, you have poured your heart out in counseling sessions with your church leaders, stood in prayer lines, repented and vowed to do better. And still found yourself giving into that temptation the next time it presented itself, leaving you asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

Nothing. There is nothing wrong with you. The very fact that you are concerned about it is a good sign. It’s the people who won’t admit they have a problem that should worry.

Everyone, at one time or another, struggles with some type of bad habit or addiction. Maybe it’s shopping too much, smoking, drinking alcohol, pornography, coffee, sweets, etc. People don’t want others to know about their problems, so they hide them in the closet, hoping that no one will ever find out about their secret. When a problem is hidden in the dark, it will continue to haunt you. But once it is brought into the light, that is when you will be able to overcome it.

A bad habit or addiction is anything that robs you of your time with God, that you feel that you must hide, that hurts your health or the health of others or is against the Word of God.

It is important that we guard what we are feeding the gates of our heart–our eyes, ears and mouth. Looking at pornographic magazines or watching R-rated movies causes those images to enter our eye gates, and once there, our minds store those images for safe keeping. Then at the most awkward moments, it will replay those images. Maybe in your dreams, when you are praising God at church or when you are kissing your girlfriend.

Perhaps you don’t watch anything objectionable. Instead your vice of choice is heavy-metal or rap music that talk about killing cops and degrading women. At first, you may just think the music has a nice beat, but after awhile, even though, you are not consciously listening to the lyrics, those words–the ones about murder, drugs and sex–will seep into your subconscious. You will find yourself getting into trouble because you have a shorter fuse than you used to. You will blur the line between right and wrong. You won’t remember why having sex without a marriage license is sinful, why stealing and lying are immoral. All because you didn’t guard what you let through your eye and ear gates.

How do you overcome the bad habits and addictions in your life?

1. Repent. I John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” If we didn’t struggle with problems in life, there would be no reason to repent. However, we do, so we must ask God to forgive us for our wrongdoings. He is a gracious God who promises to forgive us when we repent.

The mistake most of us make is in hiding our sin from God. Somehow we think that we can hide it from the One who sees all and knows all. Run to God when you slip in your recovery. Run to Him when you sin because He is on your side. He is not sitting up in Heaven, waiting to pounce on you anytime you make a mistake. That is not who He is. God is love not hate.

2. Ask God For Help. In II Corinthians 12:9, God tell us “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness. Think about that for a moment. In our times of weakness, we can count on God to be strong for us. If we team up with God, we can conquer anything. Romans 8:37 promises that “we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.”

Philippians 4:13 states that “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Never be afraid to ask God for help because without Him, beating a bad habit is like digging yourself out of the bottom of the Grand Canyon. It’s an uphill battle.

3. Make A Decision. I will–when said together, those two words can be the strongest words in the English language. Why? Because they denote choice. Even in the Garden of Eden, we find humans making their own choices. Eve could have chose not to talk to the serpent. She could have decided not to eat the fruit. Adam could have refused the fruit when Eve offered it to him.

Every day we make choices. Will I have the soup or the salad? Will I cheat at golf? Will I give back the extra change the cashier gave me? Every day we make up our minds to do the right thing or to do the wrong thing. But when faced with a choice, humans usually choose the wrong thing because it is easier to give into temptations than to say “no.”

So, we must train ourselves to choose the right option. Whenever you have to choose between right and wrong, take a moment and determine which is the wrong option and which is the right. If you don’t know, ask yourself what would happen if you picked a certain option. If it would result in someone being hurt or in something that is contrary to God’s Word, it is the wrong choice.

4. Find Someone To Talk To. James 5:16 advises us to “Confess your faults one to another that ye may be healed…” As I said before, when we leave things in the dark, they continue to have a hold over us. In order to stop this cycle, we must find someone to confess our habits and addictions to. Once it is out in the open, then you will begin to heal in that area of your life. Make sure to find someone you can trust to talk to. You don’t want your sins to be broadcast all over your church, your neighborhood or your school. Instead go to your minister, youth pastor, parents, school counselor or a close friend.

Expose your bad habits and addictions to God’s light, and you will be amazed at how quickly they will crumble under the heat.

About The Author, Annagail Lynes

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Something from Ah Ngiam

findcotton — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:43:09 +0000

严世峰 (Alvin Ngiam) says (11:39 AM):
You want to cut off all future relationships for fear of being hurt again. In effect, you want to lock yourself up in a prison and throw away the keys. yes, you won’t be hurt again, but then you won’t be free either.
c0Tt0n : @ work says (11:39 AM):
huh
严世峰 (Alvin Ngiam) says (11:39 AM):
read this from a book….tot of sharing with u… dun ask me why…just tot of sharing it with u…
严世峰 (Alvin Ngiam) says (11:40 AM):
hahahah!
c0Tt0n : @ work says (11:40 AM):

What am I supposed to say…. when I’m all choked up and you’re ok?

findcotton — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:10:50 +0000

I am in love with this song – the lyrics to be exact.

The simplicity of being in a relationship and now it has ended where one party has moved on easily while the other is still suffering. I am certain many can relate to it.

I’m still alive but I’m barely breathing
Just prayed to a god that I don’t believe in
Coz I got time while she got freedom
Coz when a heart breaks no it don’t break even

Her best days will be some of my worst
She finally met a man that’s gonna put her first
While I’m wide awake she’s no trouble sleeping
Coz when a heart breaks no it don’t break even, even no

What am I suppose to do when the best part of me was always you?
What am I suppose to say when I’m all choked up and you’re OK?
I’m falling to pieces, yeah
I’m falling to pieces

They say bad things happen for a reason
But no wise words gonna stop me bleeding
Coz she’s moved on while I’m still grieving
And when a heart breaks no it don’t break even, even, no

What am I gonna do when the best part of me was always you?
What am I suppose to say when I’m all choked up and you’re OK?
I’m falling to pieces, yeah
I’m falling to pieces, yeah
I’m falling to pieces
I’m falling to pieces

You got his heart and my heart and none of the pain
You took your suitcase, I took the blame
Now I’m trying to make sense of what little remains
Coz you left with no love, with no love to my name

I’m still alive but I’m barely breathing
Just prayed to a god that I don’t believe in
Coz I got time while she got freedom
Coz when a heart breaks no it don’t break even
No it don’t break, no it dont break even, no

Oh, it don’t break even, no (x3)

Survival

findcotton — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:43:28 +0000

For moi god-bradda

findcotton — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 07:16:38 +0000

I know you will always be there for me – this is for you.

Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin’ back to the one you love?

Love always,

Xiaomei

The One You Love – Glenn Frey

I know you need a friend, someone you can talk to
Who will understand what you’re going through
When it comes to love, there’s no easy answer
Only you can say what you’re gonna do

I heard you on the phone, you took his number
Said you weren’t alone, but you’d call him soon
Isn’t he the guy, the guy who left you cryin’?
Isn’t he the one who made you blue?
When you remember those nights in his arms
You know you gotta make up your mind

Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin’ back to the one you love?
Someone’s gonna cry when they know they’ve lost you
Someone’s gonna thank the stars above

What you gonna say when he comes over?
There’s no easy way to see this through
All the broken dreams, all the disappointment
Oh girl, what you gonna do?
Your heart keeps sayin’ it’s just not fair
But still you gotta make up your mind

Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin’ back to the one you love?
Someone’s gonna cry when they know they’ve lost you
Someone’s gonna thank the stars above